Ahh, Ladies! I am not sure why I have chosen to share this topic, and I may get a bit of flack for it, but it is a topic I have mulled over based on my experiences, and I would love you to share your thoughts in the comments section, and let me know what you think. Am I on the right track, or am I way off?
Becoming a Proverbs 31 woman is the ultimate for us women, isn’t it? She seems to have it all wrapped up in this great bundle. Man! she has it going on for her. But, listen, if you doubt you are one, I encourage you to record all the characteristics of the Proverbs 31 woman and work on each, one step at a time. You may find that some of her character traits will be you naturally, so go ahead and eliminate those, then work on the others you need to become or struggle with.
Let me be transparent and hope the honey does not read this, but, to be honest, I struggle with loving my husband through everything. At times I cannot bite my tongue and come across like the one wearing the pants (here is where my eyes begin to roll because that is in my mind, as if, lol), but, let us be truthful, ain’t that the truth, some of us are like that! It has been a rough journey—learning refrain, that is, and I am still a work in progress, but I am much further along the journey as the good Lord has taken me in hand about it. As Proverbs 31 women, we must respect our husbands as the head of the family. We are their loving support and not their ruler. Can I voice my thoughts here? I believe that some marriage separations may be caused by women (cover eyes) who refuse to give their husbands due respect. I think men are pretty easygoing, most of them—my opinion. And we must allow them to be men and understand and appreciate their differences. They do not think like us, and they never will. Thank goodness, imagine if they did; God forbid the thought.
I remember asking my husband one Sunday to move a picture frame for me, some time had passed without him making any attempt to help, I asked him again—his response was, “I will move it when I am ready, my mother never got me to jump, and neither will you; I am lazing, and it is Sunday woman.” I got so mad, and I wanted to tear him to pieces, but if I had paused and remembered it was Sunday and our Sabbath, I would have joined in on the lazing rather than insisting on doing housework. Let us stop sweating the small stuff—and that is what we do as women, a lot of us—we sweat the small stuff.
I no longer question why couples separate and sometimes divorce, once again, my opinion, but could it be as a result of us sweating the small stuff? And in the same breath, I am not discrediting valid reasons for divorce because they are many, but if we looked at the big picture, we would get the picture. The small stuff gets in our way.
We quickly say he and I fell out of love, or we are going in different directions, but is it that we fell out of lust and reality is kicking in? Also, we will go/grow in different directions; we are unique individuals and we must grow individually. No two people grow at the same pace, and that is one of life’s beautiful gifts that we must appreciate that lends to the dynamism of our lives. However, as we consider the big picture, we see a common goal of happiness, joy, prosperity, and godly living and growing our family together—the foundation of our lives and all that we need. Everything else is sweet milk (smile); it sweetens the deal but is not detrimental if absent. Stop sweating the small stuff and wasting time focusing on them.
Be happy to be a Proverbs 31 woman; I love being a woman, and it is hard to identify with women who want to be men. I think being a woman is a huge calling and a big deal. Let us cheer for that truth. I bet a lot of us do not look at it that way. It is a significant calling. It is a calling to be the glue that keeps the family together, and a flourishing family points to a woman who holds this calling in high esteem. A bit daunting? Yes, it is, and I agree that being a man may make life a bit easier (hahaha), but listen, embrace womanhood and be happy to be a woman. Not just any woman, but a Proverbs 31 woman who keeps her family thriving while not sweating the small stuff!
Here Are 5 Ways We Can Stop:
- Accept Our Positions In Others Lives, Not For Them But For Us.
- Remember To Not Absorb All That Is Around Us, Not Everything Requires An Answer.
- When We Do Answer, Reverse The Roles And Put The Shoe On The Other Foot.
- Accept The Calling Given To Every Woman To Be A Nurturer To Everyone. Be That And Create A space In Which Everyone You Meet Can Flourish—Well, Not Everyone, You Will Know Who.
- Become The Proverbs 31 Woman, Get To Know Her, And Emulate Her
NOW LET US DECIDE TO STOP SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF.
SARAVONE
COMING SOON
WE INSPIRE ASPIRING WOMEN
