Things We’re Leaving for Good — Including That One Situationship

EVERY WOMAN / By /

Listen.
We are too wise, too fine, and too full of purpose to be dragging dead weight into our future. And yes, that includes him. That almost-relationship, that back-and-forth, that “let’s just see where this goes” foolishness? It’s expired, sis. Trash day was last week.

Here’s a short list of things we are packing up, shipping off, and leaving exactly where they belong — behind us.

1. The Half-Baked “What Are We?” Conversations
If you have to ask, you already know.
Gone are the days when we sat up late, overthinking texts, rereading conversations, and decoding mixed signals like it’s some national security riddle.

We’re not confused — we’re just tired.
Tired of men who want girlfriend privileges with acquaintance energy.
Tired of pretending “vibing” is a long-term strategy.
Tired of waiting for someone to wake up and realize we’re the prize.

The truth is simple:
If he wanted to, he would.
If you were his priority, you’d know without needing a dissertation.
And if you have to drag him to clarity, he was never walking beside you in the first place.

This season?
No more negotiating our worth.
No more half-love, half-effort, half-truths.
Either you’re sure about me, or you’re sure to lose me.

Next caller please.

2. Apologizing for Having Standards
We’re done explaining ourselves for expecting the bare minimum: respect, effort, honesty, consistency.
You’re not too much.
You’re not “crazy.”
You’re not “too picky.”
And you are definitely not intimidating in any way that should make you shrink.

(And honestly? If your standards do intimidate someone, GOOD. Let them stay shook and stay gone. We’re not lowering the bar to accommodate people who can’t even jump.)

Having standards is not a burden — it’s a filter.
It weeds out the lazy, the half-hearted, the users, and the people who want all the benefits without doing the work.

This season?
Your standards are staying.
Actually, they’re getting promoted.
They’re getting a raise, new benefits, and a corner office with a view.

Because you’re not just protecting your heart — you’re protecting your peace, your future, your legacy.

If someone can’t meet you where you are, that’s their limitation, not yours.
Keep your standards high and your chin higher.

3. Hustle Culture Without Rest
We’re not running ourselves into the ground to prove we deserve a seat at a table we probably don’t even like.
Success without peace is a scam.
This season, it’s grace AND grind. Not grind till collapse.

4. People Who Only Show Up When They Need Something

We see you. We see you clearly. 👀
The ones who disappear when you need support, but suddenly remember your number when they need a favor, a hookup, a “quick lil loan,” or your energy to fuel their latest drama. Let’s call it what it is:
If it’s not mutual, it’s not a relationship — it’s a transaction.
And newsflash: We are not the ATM, the therapist, the last-minute babysitter, or the free Uber.

In this new season, we’re being brutally honest about who truly values us and who only values what they can get from us.
Because love without reciprocity is not love — it’s exploitation dressed up as “friendship” or “family obligation.”

And respectfully?
The bank is closed.
The emotional ATM is shut down.
The energy wells are reserved for those who pour back.

If you can’t show up when it’s inconvenient…
If you can’t offer your time when it’s not about your own emergency…
If you can’t clap for me without needing a piece of the glory…

You have no access here anymore.

We are no longer financing one-sided relationships.
Full stop. ✋🏽

5. That One Situationship
You know the one. Yes, him.
The one who was always “almost” ready. “Almost” consistent. “Almost” the man you needed — but somehow never fully showed up. The “maybe next year” romance that’s been rotting in the back of your life like a forgotten bag of groceries — and every time you open the door, the stink gets worse. We are no longer rehydrating what should have been buried.
If it didn’t work then, it’s not magically getting better now.
And honestly? Saltfish is good when seasoned, cooked, and served hot, not left out in the sun pretending it’s still fresh.
Release it, sis.
You are not a morgue worker. Stop reviving dead things.
Let’s call it what it is: dead weight disguised as potential.
Girl, you deserve more. You are more. Period.

6. Anybody who can’t spell consistency — and worse, can’t practice it
We’re DONE entertaining people who show up today, disappear tomorrow, then want to waltz back into our lives like nothing happened.
Consistency isn’t a skill; it’s a choice.
If someone can post selfies every day but can’t text you back? If they can update their WhatsApp story hourly but can’t commit to real connection?
They’re not too busy — you’re just not a priority.
And guess what? We’re not begging for basic human decency in this season.
Match my energy or miss me completely.

7. Jobs that pay us dust but expect Olympic-level performance
We’re leaving workplaces that think “exposure” and “experience” are acceptable substitutes for respect and fair pay.
They want you to juggle five roles, lead three committees, hit impossible KPIs — and for what? A pat on the back and a slice of stale cake during staff appreciation week?
No, thank you.
We are no longer giving gold-medal energy to bronze-package employers. We are not staying late to build someone else’s dream while our own goals gather dust.
If it doesn’t come with peace, proper pay, AND professional growth — we are clocking out. Permanently.

The Bottom Line is this: We’re not begging. We’re not explaining.
We’re not lowering our frequency to meet anybody halfway.

We’re not staying stuck in expired situations, jobs, friendships, or mindsets that drain us.
We’re not decoding mixed signals or accepting crumbs and calling it cake.
We are walking, no — strutting — into a season where peace is priority, standards are non-negotiable, and our energy is protected like royalty.
If it’s not mutual, meaningful, and built on real respect, it’s a hard no.
No anger. No drama. Just doors closing quietly and confidently.

Because the truth is:
We’re not hard to love, hard to please, or hard to understand.
We’re just done making ourselves small for people who were never meant to sit at our table.

The era of over-explaining is over.
The era of alignment, abundance, and audacity has officially begun.

And that’s that.
This season? It’s all alignment, abundance, and absolutely no crumbs.

Here’s to full plates, full hearts, and the softest, most savage era of our lives.

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