By Sandra Jean Charite

There was a time when she could handle those chaotic moments—making breakfast for five kids, packing their lunches, getting everyone dressed, ensuring all homework was completed, ironing her husband’s clothes, making dinner, and still having time to read bedtime stories. But those days have come and gone. She is exhausted. She has loaded too much onto her plate and set high expectations for her loved ones. So, what happened to Superwoman, who could do it all without breaking a sweat?

I want you to know that it’s okay; we all fall short. You are not the only woman who has dropped the ball on your kids, spouse, or loved ones. We were created to be human, not Superwomen. Life happens, and our imperfections do not diminish God’s ability to mend our brokenness.

I often think about Proverbs 31 in the Bible, which highlights the various characteristics of a Godly woman. After reading the chapter several times, the Proverbs 31 woman might seem like a superwoman to some – virtuous, strong, and selfless. She embodies the character of God and has invested time, morals, principles, prayer, money, and hard work in herself. Yet, this Superwoman also fears the Lord. Proverbs 31 can be intimidating because some of us don’t always feel like that, so we shed our superwoman cape. But being a superwoman of God doesn’t mean you have to be perfect or excel at everything.

Superwoman’s downfall also occurs because many women neglect proper self-care or are not honest about their mental health. Can you imagine carrying a bag full of heavy basketballs over your shoulder for an extended time? In your mind, you think you can do it, but gravity says no.

Women are human, with weaknesses as well as significant strengths. You will mess up, stumble, get your heart broken, and more, but you must confront those chaotic and traumatic moments in your life. Healing and therapy will bring you to a place of wholeness, not perfection. Superwoman can pursue perfection without any harm; humans cannot.

Ultimately, we weren’t meant to live this life alone. We were never meant to handle life’s chaos alone. The Bible says in 1 Peter 5:7, “Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for us.” The moment we try to do it on our own, we fail. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.” Rely on the Lord’s strength to carry you through the difficult times.

About the Author

Sandra Jean Charite

Sandra Jean Charite is a Miami native. At a young age, Sandra displayed a strong interest in writing while other youths spent the majority of their time outside playing with their friends in the streets of Little Haiti, Miami, Sandra was in her room lost in her dreams and writing stories.  Sandra’s mother noticed her interest in writing and purchased her daughter’s first journal, which she filled with stories, monologs, poems, and letters to God.
Even though Sandra grew up in the church, she shied away from having a personal relationship with God.  This resulted in Sandra leaving the church while still a teenager and she vowed to never return. Within that time, she faced many hardships including losing her mom, rejection, disappointment, unemployment, and other obstacles that led her to believe that her life was empty without God.  Sandra later gave her life to Christ and continued to spread her gift of writing. This Haitian-American author is devoted to ministry and serving God to the fullest. Sandra’s first published book, Broken Crayons Still Color, was released in 2016. She poured out her soul in a series of poems and stories. Then, she released her second book of poems, Picking Up My Pearls from the Altar.
Her latest book, The Lies I Told Myself: Only Truth Can Set You Free, is a non-fictional memoir that inspires, refreshes and brings hope to her audience. Each of her books invokes a mature level of transparency.