I was watching a trailer recently, and it was about an iconic woman from the 70s and her contributions to women’s rights. I couldn’t help imagining what would happen if I was born in that era when women were seen (only) as housewives and baby machines. Where women were not allowed to work, let alone have a social life outside of the equator of their household or husband. 

In the past, our worth was measured by our fertility and ability to smile and nod with the men who held the power. I now question if how we were seen and accepted then has changed in the 21st century? Are we deemed more worthy now that we are to some degree more independent, and our fruitfulness is attached to dollar signs too and not just babies?

What instigates the worth of a woman in modern times? How does one know their worth? Here are the 3 ways.

Our Self-Worth – A woman is worth nothing if she does not believe in herself and her capabilities. One of the reasons women were (some still are) oppressed is that the majority told them they were less than, and they believed it. Women must know their self-worth, without the input of others. It is fantastic to celebrate other women, but do not forget to celebrate yourself. You are amazing too! You are beautiful, loved, and capable of greatness, just as your colleagues and your male counterparts are.

Boundaries that we must set – Most of what you receive is what you allow. Setting boundaries is vital for every woman’s well-being. People need to see that invisible line and know not to cross it. They have a saying in Jamaica, “inch by inch becomes a ruler” and this means whatever you allow ‘to slide’ may be the end of you. People will test your boundaries and equate them to your worth. What you allow shows the level of respect you have for yourself and what others will have for you. Your worth demands that you set firm boundaries that speak resoundingly.

The Confidence we exude – It is funny how men are taught to be confident, and it is not seen as arrogant, but confident women are haughty divas. Women who know their worth and who are worth anything are confident. Confidence wins 90% of the battle. Women who walk with their heads high will go high, and I could continue… Women are no longer the feeble mouse that runs to hide in the corner, we have found our roar, and just as the jungle has a lion, it also has a lioness. Your worth should speak boldly and confidently. 

Beyond women, let us remember the paths paved for women—from the household battles to the marches and rallies in the streets throughout history. Women have earned the right to be worthy and the opportunity to be anything they choose. Though there still are some ways to go, we will do it with grace, self-worth, and confidence, one heel in front of the other, firmly and resolutely. Let us UP OUR WORTH!