written by Dawn Petgrave| Associate Counselling Psychologist

We sat in a room where a conversation developed between us. I immediately dropped my guard and allowed myself to be authentically me. I was sharing space with a strong woman. A beautiful woman. A smart woman. A woman of excellence. A Godly woman. A mother. A wife. An educator. A counselor. A Psychologist. A Pastor. I was sharing space with a PHENOMENAL WOMAN.

Then something beautiful happened. She was bringing out the best in me! I found myself straightening my shoulders and sitting up straight. I wanted to fix my tone and correct my speech. I was in the presence of an AMAZING WOMAN and all I wanted to do is be amazing also.

You probably would be very frightened if I told you that shortly before that conversation, I was sharing my disappointment with a colleague about someone I considered my girlfriend for many years. She had deceived me so terribly that I was ashamed to tell anyone about the pain I was experiencing. In my heart, I silently made a commitment that I will NOT have any more female friends! I will communicate with females socially and spiritually, but I will not allow any of them to get close to me. I guess I was just tired of being used and how can anyone blame me for feeling that way?

But here I was now, having a good conversation with a great woman. Our conversation turned into counseling, laughter, prayer, and future plans. Wow! A few moments ago we were totally strangers and this connection, this interaction with my now sister, proved to me how badly we needed each other.

Later that evening while in my devotion I questioned God about this interaction. So many times persons hurt us and we allow the pain to dictate the rest of our lives instead of forgiving and keep going forward. Deuteronomy 30:3, “God, your God, will restore everything you lost; he’ll have compassion on you; he’ll come back and pick up the pieces from all the places where you were scattered.” You might be feeling like you have lost so much of yourself in relationships. But God will restore you and strategically place others who will see your value and treat you accordingly.

So I sat and I wondered. Do women need each other? I posted the question and here are some responses:

“Yes, women need each other. Such a friendship can support and guide you and be used as motivation to be a better version of yourself.
What makes the difference is the personality of the particular female friend. Although it is good and bad among both genders female friendship can be very meaningful and necessary.”

“We tend to share with each other as sisters, confidants, things that we are not comfortable sharing with a mother, father, husband.”

“Absolutely… it’s just sad though that many look to tear each other down…. But women friendships are an important component of life.”

“I believe we do. The rationale for my answer is that women are more connected to their emotional nature therefore we use each other to conversate about things that are happening with us, around us, and to us. So easily, for women that don’t have a strong supportive male partner or friend, it’s easier to confide in a woman that often time already understands what we are trying to explain to them. Sometimes we don’t even need to explain, we cry and they already understand.”

“If the first woman God ever made was strong enough to turn the world upside down all alone, these women together ought to be able to turn it back, and get it right side up again! And now they is asking to do it, the men better let them.”

― Sojourner Truth

Sisters, we are so much stronger, so much more powerful and brilliant together! I would love to hear your feedback. Please leave a comment and share this blog with a friend.

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