“The biggest coward is a man who awakens a woman’s love without the intention of loving her.”
-Bob Marley.
I grew up hearing my father singing the famous song ‘When a man loves a woman”—Percy Sledge.
When a man loves a woman
Can’t keep his mind on nothin’ else
He’d trade the world For the good thing he’s found
If she is bad, he can’t see it, She can do no wrong
And turn his back on his best friend, If he puts her down
When a man loves a woman, Spend his very last dime
And trying to hold on to what he needs
He’d give up all his comforts…….
As I grow older I have loved, and I have lost many times. I have had my love awaken many times by men who had no intention of loving me back. So was that famous Percy Sledge song a lie? or was Bob Marley correct? Are many men simply cowards or have many women allowed men to treat them less than the queen they are? I have come to realize that men will treat you how you treat yourself. Therefore, if you want to be treated better, start by treating yourself better.
Like many women, love has not been so kind to me.. Love has thrown me bricks disguised as roses constantly breaking my poses. Love always comes different in stature so I continue to fall for the trap, over and over. I’ve wondered many times, have I not been good to love? Have I not always given love my all? Have I not been kind and gentle to love? Have I not kept a smile and a beautiful persona?
Many I am sure, have read about love languages and the importance of loving one according to their love language. But even with all the application of the acquired knowledge of love, I have heard so many women complained that love just never seemed to love them back. I think many men fall in love with the idea of the woman, but not the woman herself! The desire to love and to be loved is in our God given nature. “Each moment you don’t possess what you love is a moment not spent in love. And a heart without love is a heart without a voice, no song, no life”, Monsieur Lheureux : .
There are still great men in the world also looking for true love. But you must choose to love you more and to love you first. All of you. Your strengths and your insecurities. Your past, your failures, and your successes. Love all of you. Appreciate and embrace who you are. Love your intellect and the drive you have for life. Do not be ashamed of your strength and your poise. It is ok to remain single until someone comes along and compliment your life in a way that makes it and you better. Give yourself permission to wait. Your waiting period will help you to develop and grow.
One day a man will sit beside you and proudly put his arms around you. He will be so proud to be your husband. He will ask you where have you have been all his life. He will tell you that nothing you’ve been through matters. None of your past matters. He will love you and it will feel like everything you’ve lost has been returned in him. He will eclipsed you bigger than any sun you’ve seen. He will penetrate through all the walls you’ve built. It is then you will understand why you had to wait and why none of the others could have loved you the way you deserved. Just focus on loving yourself more and wait!
“Everything happens when you start loving yourself. You no longer send out the energy of desperation or need to be filled from the outside. You become a powerful source within yourself that attracts better. The more you love who you are, the less you seek validation and approval.” Idil Ahmed
Dawn Marie Petgrave
—Educator |Author |Motivational Speaker |Entrepreneur |Minister of Religion Dawn is a member of the Jamaican Psychological Society (JAMPSYCH) who holds a Masters degree in Counseling Psychology and Theology. Dawn is a trained teacher and has been an educator for over fifteen years. Dawn is a talented businesswoman who is the CEO and Principal of D’Marie Institute Ltd.
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